Today I finished listening to the 3rd book of “The Conversation with God” series and below are my favorite highlights, which I have transcribed here for easy reference.
“In everything, BE CAUSE. Children understand this perfectly. Ask a child, “Why did you do that?” and the child will tell you, “Just be-cause.” That is the only reason to do anything.
Be the cause of your experience, not at the effect of it. And know that you do not need to create the opposite of who you are in your personal space or personal experience in order to know and experience who you really are and who you choose to be. Armed with this knowledge, you can change your life and you can change your world.
There are three basic wisdom and these are: 1) We are all one, 2) There is enough, 3) There is nothing we have to do. If you decided that we are all one, you would cease treating each other the way you do. If you decided that there is enough, you would share everything with everyone. If you decided that there is nothing we have to do, you would stop trying to use doingness to solve your problems, but rather move to and come from a state of being, which would cause your experience of those problems to disappear and the conditions themselves to thus evaporate.
Remember this always and make it your mantra: “There is nothing I have to have, there is nothing I have to do, and there is nothing I have to be except exactly what I am being right now.” — This does not mean that having and doing will be eliminated from your life, it means that what you experience yourself having or doing will spring from your being, not lead you to it. When you come from happiness, you do certain things because you are happy as opposed to the old paradigm in which you did things that you hoped would make you happy. When you come from wisdom, you do certain things because you are wise, not because you are trying to get to wisdom. When you come from love, you do certain things because you are love, not because you want to have love.
Everything changes, everything turns around when you COME FROM BEING, rather than seeking to be. You cannot do your way to being, whether you are trying to be happy, be wise, be love, or be God, you cannot get there by doing. And yet it is true that you will be doing wonderful things once you get there.
Here is the divine dichotomy, “The way to get there is to be there“. JUST BE where you choose to get. It’s that simple. There is nothing you have to do. You wanna be happy? BE happy. You wanna be wise? BE wise. You want to be love? Be love.”
When I finally really GET this message, now I see that I had gotten it all wrong before. Up until tonight, I did things hoping that would make me happy, or make me feel good or make me successful…. Earlier I had heard the same message from many other sources, however, only now I seem to be really internalizing it.
To list some of my flawed thought processes from the past and how they were not making me happy:
- I used to start feeling dissatisfied as I got close to achieving or as soon as achieving some of my goals. As this pattern repeated many times, I eventually started feeling uneasy about setting goals because I felt that ultimately they won’t satisfy me and believing in goals will only put up a false hope. So lately I had gotten paralyzed about setting goals, but now I understand that no amount of DOING will get me to BEING unless I start DOING from the BEING itself.
- Also because I subconsciously believed that achieving goals will make me happy, I wouldn’t rest or relax until I achieved my goals. The plus side of such belief is that I would achieve almost all of my goals one after the other. But the minus side is that I would exhaust and burn myself in the process and would create unnecessary sufferings.
- Furthermore, because I believed that achieving goals would make me happy, I constantly went for increasingly bigger goals. And because my sight was set up for big goals, I used to get frustrated by and hate anything that looked like small, trivial matters as they would steal time away from working towards the big goals. But the problem is that the avoided small “monsters” would inevitably grow to become big “monsters” over time, and in the end, I would create unnecessary “enemies” to fight against.
So now that I know WHAT WORKS, I want to start on the right side of the bed in fulfilling my role as a newly self-appointed Empress. So below I would like the list the qualities I wish to BE as an Empress:
Having chosen the Empress archetype, I wasn’t sure how I was going to BE it. Fortunately, deciding on above 10 attributes just brought me so much clarity. So thanks to Neale Donald Walsch and his book mentioned above!